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* Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly Newsletter *
Issue #708, Week of April 2-3, 2012
Publisher: David Riklan - http://www.SelfGrowth.com
In this issue:
-- Quotes of the Week
-- Recommended Resource of the Week
-- Article: Plan for the Unexpected: How to Conquer Change Using 5 Timely Tips - By Paula Eder
-- Article: 10 Tips For Emotional Spring Cleaning - By Helaine Z. Harris
-- Book Review: The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It - By Kelly McGonigal Ph.D.
-- Inspirational News Story of the Week
-- How to Subscribe and Unsubscribe from this Newsletter
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*** Quotes of the Week ***
------------------------------------------------------------ The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook. - William James, 1842-1910 The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts; therefore guard accordingly. - Marcus Aurelius, 121-180 The only journey is the journey within. - Rainer Maria Rilke, 1875-1926
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*** Recommended Resource of the Week ***
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*** Article: Plan for the Unexpected: How to Conquer Change Using 5 Timely Tips - By Paula Eder ***
------------------------------------------------------------ Heart-based time management is all about finding time, increasing productivity, and deepening your experience of each and every moment. And heart-based time management works best when you are using your time efficiently and effectively. But what happens when something unexpected enters the scene and disrupts your carefully laid plans?
Well, here’s something to consider: The more you plan for change, the less you need to change your plans. The best time management techniques will never provide you with the level of control you might wish you could exercise over your time. That’s because life is, by definition, bigger than your plans. So a key element in successful time management is cultivating openness to change. Unfortunately, this foundational fact is not a component of many time management systems. Often, the models are static and linear. This leads to people constructing their plans upon illusions of life's predictability. We like to think that life is predictable, even if it is not. So, initially, the idea of planning for change might seem foreign or even disturbing. You may encounter resistance, both from yourself and from others, as you consider taking a different approach to time management - one where you acknowledge that you are living and working within a world in constant transition. You may encounter arguments like the following, as you open to change and embark on this heart-based journey: 1. "Change is unpredictable. There’s no point in even thinking about it." 2. "The unexpected creates stress. Why go there? Best to stick with what you know." 3. "Change brings losses along with any gains. If you avoid change you can avoid getting hurt!" 4. "Change requires added focus and work. Tiring to even consider - stick with what is!" 5. "Change reveals the limits of your control. How frustrating and scary is that?" Of course, it's human nature to resent new and shifting demands. Fortunately, it's also human nature to blossom and thrive when such challenges are embraced rather than shied away from. "It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change." Charles Darwin 5 Timely Tips for Embracing Life's Constant Changes So They Don’t Derail You 1. The more you accept change as a constant, the more prepared you are. The more prepared you are, the more productive you are. 2. Expecting change keeps you alert and interested. Resistance generates stress and inflexibility. Your effectiveness and energy increase when you engage with curiosity. 3. Genuinely accepting the inevitability of loss and change doesn’t lessen the pain of it. But it does help you embrace reality and open to the gains and opportunities that emerge. 4. You develop new strengths when you focus and work to welcome change. Your confidence in your skills grows as you allow intensive times of change to foster growth and positive turning points in your life. 5. Truly accepting the limits of your control helps you train your focus on what you can change. That means that you invest your efforts and energies where your power lies - a wonderfully efficient way to use your time!
You may be tempted to pursue routines that turn into ruts. Just remember that, while routine is not necessarily a bad thing, those who excel not only accept life's ongoing changes - they capitalize on those changes. Bonus Tip: Notice which of your friends seem to discourage you from expanding your horizons, and which ones encourage your taking reasonable and calculated risks to grow. Start building a community of support for yourself, and then notice how you begin to attract more opportunities to revitalize your life and grow through changes, both personally and professionally.
What is your next step in making the most of change as you continue your heart-based journey through time? Here’s one idea for taking your next step. Sign up for our free gift, "The New Finding Time Boundary Template: 9 Simple, Sequential Steps to Find More Time and Recharge Your Energy!" at http://thetimefinder.com/TemplateSG.html This time template will help you move beyond overwhelm, disappointment, and frustration. Using a workbook format, with room to record your answers, you will discover that 24 hours really are enough! Offered by Paula Eder, Ph.D., The Time Finder Expert. ** To comment on this article or to read comments about this article, go here.
About the Author:
Paula Eder, PhD, the SelfGrowth.com Official Guide to Time Management, is an internationally-known coach and published author who mentors spirit-driven solopreneurs and small business owners to align their core values and energy with their time choices and behaviors so that they can make more money, create more freedom, and find more time. Living on a working farm in rural New Hampshire, Paula's connection with time is as organic, spiritual, and down-to-earth practical as the vitality and resiliency of the seasons. From her base in New Hampshire she has maintained a thriving coaching practice for the past 35 years; is a Certified Coach in Kendall Summerhawk's Money Breakthrough Method™ Program; and is a certified graduate of the Vanguard class of the Authentic Happiness Coaching Program conducted by Martin E. P. Seligman, PhD and Ben Dean, PhD. Her Heart-Based Time Management System helps busy people just like you develop the skills to make authentic time choices that lead to work success, personal growth, vibrant health, and an ever-deepening relationship with yourself and those you love. To learn more about Paula's unique, Heart-Based Time Management System and begin your transformational journey, sign up for her Finding Time Success Kit. Discover how you can find time for what matters most. http://www.selfgrowth.com/guide/paulaeder.html
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*** Article: 10 Tips For Emotional Spring Cleaning - By Helaine Z. Harris ***
------------------------------------------------------------ Spring has sprung! Now is the time to clean house, not only outside, but our inner house as well. This is the place where our emotions, attitudes and beliefs reside - you know what I mean, the place inside us from which we run our entire lives. Now is the time to take an inventory of all your behaviors and patterns such as negative self-talk, unproductive thinking and words we express, and all that baggage of emotional past experiences. This requires sorting out, just like when we physically clean our environment. What do we want to keep, to throw away and to give away. In the Christian tradition, Lent prepares people to clean out prior to celebrating Easter. In the Jewish tradition, one month prior to Passover, everything is cleaned out. Many of the major religions talk about the necessity of purifying to make room for a rebirth, resurrection, mating in springtime, a spiritual awakening or enjoying a playful spring recess. This certainly is a time to refresh from the inside out. Think in terms of your body being your Inner Temple and your home being your Outer Temple. Let's continue with cleansing your Inner Temple. 1. Center Yourself: To decide what to keep of your values, beliefs, memories of past experiences, messages you were taught, and behaviors in which you engage, it is wise to quiet yourself and take a few moments to meditate. Allow the silence to be your teacher. Have your journal by your side to record your thoughts and progress. Then ask your inner self - or better yet, your Higher Self - "Which behavior patterns and emotional reactions are not serving me now?" Then listen inside. Some of you receive images, words, statements, a sound, or a moving picture to represent your answers Write and write, without editing or questioning. Just bear witness to what comes through you. 2. Now that your list is complete, notice what emotions and reactions occur. Separate your list into sections, if you desire. For example, some categories might be: Negative Self-Talk, Excuses I Make, I Can'ts, Procrastination Areas, If only's, Excessive Emotions like Anger, Resentments I Hold Onto and you may find it best for you to create your own categories. Be aware of how your buttons get pushed. 3. Make a list of positive messages, emotions and responses you would rather experience in your life. Include your list of what you could do to feel more empowered. These might be in the form of affirmations or choice statements. 4. You're ready to create a new goal list. Perhaps two to four goals for each emotional issue you wish to release. Decide on which emotional baggage you want to release or shift first. Number the rest of the negative beliefs or reactions that emerged so you have the order of what you want to deal with when ready. 5. Select the method or technique you wish to use to release these old reactions. Some of the best methods for releasing negative emotions are EFT, Self-hypnosis, Reichian work, and if it's one of the biggies connected to the fear and anger of abuse, EMDR may be the method of choice, in which case it's important to work with a therapist. For some issues, like everyday anger, it might be a cognitive method such as, "Count to 10 when I get angry before speaking or doing something." Or, "I will write in my journal until the emotion subsides." 6. Decide on a time frame for working with each emotional issue. Remember: since releasing negative emotions are not like doing a physical housecleaning item, your time frame needs to be flexible. Be gentle on yourself. 7. Notice the underlying fears, concerns or issues that arise as you change your behavior. Then you may need to address these aspects as they come up. 8. Evaluate your progress. You may choose to evaluate weekly or monthly. You decide what works best for you. Are there tangible differences in your behavior? 9. Create a Win List every time you do something positive toward a behavior change. 10. Reward yourself by a simple pat on the back. Or, find another way to reward yourself that feels good inside. When I've worked on and accomplished something that is personally challenging, I reward myself with a break and talking to a friend. How can you reward you in a meaningful way? Here is a positive choice statement that might work for you. Try it - you might like it. I choose to totally and fully take charge of my emotional reactions and behavior patterns. I delight in my new, positive beliefs and behaviors as I open to a joyful and magnificent life! ** To comment on this article or to read comments about this article, go here.
About the Author:
Helaine Z. Harris has been a Psychotherapist since 1980 and the past Education Director for ACEP (Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology). Author of award-winning book Are You In Love with A Vampire? Healing the Relationship Drain Game. Part of The Red Cross Disaster Mental Health Team and creator of An Awakening Center™ - which blends traditional and alternative psychotherapies, Helaine is dedicated to assisting clients manifest their greatest potential.
| * Now You Can Eliminate Your Financial Frustrations * I've already made 26 people like you become Internet millionaires and now I'm looking for my next round of students. If you have been trying to make money online, but you just keep growing more and more frustrated, then you are going to LOVE this free web class.
---> Click Here To Learn More & See Proof <--- | ------------------------------------------------------------
*** Book Review: The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It - By Kelly McGonigal Ph.D. ***
------------------------------------------------------------ Based on Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal's wildly popular course "The Science of Willpower," The Willpower Instinct is the first book to explain the new science of self-control and how it can be harnessed to improve our health, happiness, and productivity.
Informed by the latest research and combining cutting-edge insights from psychology, economics, neuroscience, and medicine, The Willpower Instinct explains exactly what willpower is, how it works, and why it matters. For example, readers will learn: - Willpower is a mind-body response, not a virtue. It is a biological function that can be improved through mindfulness, exercise, nutrition, and sleep.
- Willpower is not an unlimited resource. Too much self-control can actually be bad for your health.
- Temptation and stress hijack the brain's systems of self-control, but the brain can be trained for greater willpower
- Guilt and shame over your setbacks lead to giving in again, but self-forgiveness and self-compassion boost self-control.
- Giving up control is sometimes the only way to gain self-control.
- Willpower failures are contagious--you can catch the desire to overspend or overeat from your friends--but you can also catch self-control from the right role models.
In the groundbreaking tradition of Getting Things Done, The Willpower Instinct combines life-changing prescriptive advice and complementary exercises to help readers with goals ranging from losing weight to more patient parenting, less procrastination, better health, and greater productivity at work.
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*** Inspirational News Story of the Week ***
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* Cancer Patient Turns Craft Into Business *
What began as an unexpected health crisis has led to an untapped source of creativity that helps Kelsey Trusty pay for treatment. Go here for the complete news story. | 
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