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* Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly Newsletter *
Issue #701, Week of February 13-14, 2012
Publisher: David Riklan - http://www.SelfGrowth.com
In this issue:
-- Quotes of the Week
-- Recommended Resource of the Week
-- Article: 7 Valentine's Day Gifts of Time - By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
-- Article: 10 Things to Do in February If You're Single - By Renee Cooper
-- Book Review: Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love - By Sue Johnson
-- Inspirational News Story of the Week
-- How to Subscribe and Unsubscribe from this Newsletter
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*** Quotes of the Week ***
------------------------------------------------------------ What chance gathers she easily scatters. A great person attracts great people and knows how to hold them together. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, 1749-1832 It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, "Always do what you are afraid to do." - Ralph Waldo Emerson, 1803-1882 The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be. - Horace Bushnell, 1802-1876
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*** Recommended Resource of the Week ***
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*** Article: The Valentine's Day Gift of Time - By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz ***
------------------------------------------------------------ In these tough economic times we think it is important to again remind folks that the best things in life are free. To love, to be loved, and to give the gift of time is the best gift you can give to someone. This is an especially important message on Valentine's Day 2012. In our book, Building a Love that Lasts we report the findings and practical tips from our 27-year study of successfully marriage couples in the USA and around the world. In fact, we have interviewed couples on SIX continents of the world. We found in our studies that there are seven pervasive characteristics that thread throughout all successful marriages. For our Valentine's gift to you, we are pleased to offer suggestions related to each of those "seven surprising secrets" for saving your hard-earned money on Valentine's Day by giving the most precious gift of all -- your time! Here goes, the Gift of Time just for you. 1. The Gift of Time for Turning "Two Into One" without Losing Individual Identity
• Share ideas for what you would like to do together in 2012.
• Talk about the dreams you share for yourself as well as for your marriage.
• Find several favorite old photos and relive those precious moments together. 2. The Gift of Time so there are No "Sacred Cows" in your Marriage
• Engage in an extended conversation about why you love each other.
• Write your lover a note with three things you admire most about him or her.
• Tell your lover something that has been a nice "secret" of yours over the years. 3. The Gift of Time to Show Respect for the One You Love
• Treat her like a princess -- treat him like a king.
• Write an email telling your lover what you believe to be their greatest strength.
• Make a note to put on the refrigerator door with a thank you for something special your lover did for you. 4. The Gift of Time for Good Health and Health Promotion
• Cook a special healthy dinner and serve it by candlelight.
• Take a long walk with your spouse for Valentine's Day.
• Hit the "snooze" button on your alarm clock at least three times so you can snuggle a little extra in the morning. 5. The Gift of Time for Marital Financial Health
• Don't go to the movies, make your own romantic movie together.
• Forget the $60 bouquet of roses -- instead paint or draw a bouquet or write a love note to your lover.
• Don't waste your money on jewelry or chocolates. Just tell why you love them. 6. The Gift of Time for Touching and Intimacy
• Take a long walk together holding hands.
• Make romantic time for intimacy. 7. The Gift of Time To Make Your Marriage Spontaneously Exciting
• Have breakfast in bed together.
• Read a romantic bedtime story to your lover.
• Shut off all electronics for Valentine's Day -- no phones, no cell phones, no computers, no PDA, no television -- just the two of you. You see, the best things in life are, indeed, free. In these tough economic times, people are looking to save money at every turn. And the truth is, love -- true love -- should never be about money. As they song says, "Money can't buy you love."
Our 27 years of research on successful marriage has revealed to us that true love, true commitment, and truly successful marriages are based on many things, but how much money you spend on the one you love is almost never an indication of real love. In life, love, and marriage, the most important gift you can give to the one you love is the gift of time. Why should Valentine's Day 2012 be any different? We have been married for nearly 44 years. Valentine's Day has always been special for us. We make a point each year to NOT spend money on each other on this special day. If you follow our advice to you, expect the most wonderful Valentine's Day ever! Simple Things Matter in love and marriage. Love well! ** To comment on this article or to read comments about this article, go here.
About the Author:
As America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts, award-winning authors, and the SelfGrowth.com Official Guides to Marriage, Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz help international audiences answer questions about love, marriage and relationships. With 26 years of research on love and successful marriage across six continents of the world and their own 43-year marriage, the Doctors know what makes relationships work. http://www.selfgrowth.com/guide/lizandcharlesschmitz.html Get started with America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts by taking their Marriage Quiz or sending your questions to Ask the Doctors for Marriage Advice. * Discover How To Generate 300 - 1,200 Leads Per Day LIVE Tonight At 8pm EST! * Tonight February 13th at 8pm EST, online traffic generation expert, Daegan Smith, will be conducting a small private online meeting where he's going to reveal exactly how he's able to generate 300 to 1,200 leads per day online that have turned into $109,322.12 this month so far. Register now, and meet us tonight at 8pm. It's free. ------------------------------------------------------------
*** Article: 10 Things to Do in February If You're Single - By Renee Cooper ***
------------------------------------------------------------ Valentine's Day. Here it comes again. Last year we ran a list of things you can do if you're single in February, and got a great response. So this year, we're updating the list with some new ideas for how to spend this highly commercialized 'holiday'. Because even though you may not want to celebrate the idea of 'romantic love,' your life is filled with all kinds of love, if only you take the time to notice: unconditional love for your children, the soul-sister (or brother) affection for your best friend, the gratitude for all the people who make your life easier, etc. So here are some things you can do on Valentine's Day (and all of February) to honor the loves of your life: 1. Indulge in something decadent.
If you love sugar or glitter, treat yourself to a heart shaped box of chocolate (dark chocolate even has health benefits!) or pamper yourself with some new jewelry. You'll most likely save money with the sales this month! (We know this one made the list last year, but how can we not mention chocolate and jewelry?) 2. Assemble all the special people in your life and have a Girl's or Guy's Night Out!
Or even better, a Girl's Night In - complete with home makeovers, cheesy movies and lots of high caloric foods (cheesecake and chocolate is a must!). Celebrate your strength and energy! (And for men, it's perfect timing to plan ahead for March Madness!) 3. Take some time to give back.
Start training for the Breast Cancer 3-Day, raise money for those who are less fortunate or do something closer to home with a visit to a nursing home or animal shelter. Let compassion rule your heart. 4. Tell your best friends and family what you need.
They may think you're 'over the breakup", and may not understand how certain triggers can buy you a ticket for the emotional roller coaster. Ask them for help. 5. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up.
Cry. Pout. Bemoan your lack of candlelit dinner or couples' massage. But only for a short time. Let yourself wallow for an hour and then let it go. Life can be painful and difficult, but it also has joy and light. Don't let this momentary situation define who you are. 6. Express your gratitude.
Make a list every day of the things you are grateful for and type each list into Wordle.net. At the end of the month, you'll have created a beautiful illustration of the most important things in your life. Print it out and frame it as a reminder. 7. Maybe this is the year you join an online dating service.
Take the plunge and sign up. If you don't think you're ready, make a list of what's in your way. Then start tackling some of those obstacles so you will be ready and dating by next Valentine's Day. 8. Flirt
This is as simple as smiling and looking directly into someone's eyes. Experiment on the barista who makes your morning latte (the guys at my local Starbucks are incredible flirts!). Brush off those skills that may be long forgotten and practice for when you do meet someone you like and want to attract. 9. Manifest your mate.
Create a vision board of what you're looking for in a lover, partner or 'someone you could spend time with' (whatever term you are comfortable with). Then create a visual of who that person will be, and more importantly, how you will feel with that person. Use it as a guide to attract that person into your life. 10. Shake off the temptation to self-pity, and be your own valentine!
Go see a movie, sing cheesy love songs to yourself and buy yourself a gift. Lavish yourself in all your desires- you deserve it! No need to mope around this Valentine's Day. Use the time to love yourself, create your own love, or show others how much you love them! ** To comment on this article or to read comments about this article, go here.
About the Author:
Renee Cooper is the coach and co-founder of One Journey Consulting, a coaching practice in MA dedicated to personal renewal and rediscovery through life's transitions (primarily divorce). More information can be found at http://www.OneJourneyConsulting.com.
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*** Book Review: Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love - By Sue Johnson ***
------------------------------------------------------------ Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world.
In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
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*** Inspirational News Story of the Week ***
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* 'We're Not Heroes': Local Teens Humble About Helping Fight Fire *
A fire broke out in the chimney of the LeGrand family's house across the street, and a group of seven boys went from just hanging out to helping out, working to extinguish the blaze. Go here for the complete news story. | 
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