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 * Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly                                      Newsletter *
 Issue #701, Week of February 13-14, 2012
 Publisher: David Riklan -                                                                            http://www.SelfGrowth.com
 
 In this issue:
 
 -- Quotes of the Week
 -- Recommended Resource of the Week
 -- Article:								    7 Valentine's Day Gifts  of Time - By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
 -- Article: 10 Things to Do in  February If You're Single - By Renee Cooper
 -- Book Review: Hold Me Tight: Seven  Conversations for a Lifetime of Love - By Sue Johnson
 -- Inspirational News Story of the Week
 -- How to Subscribe and Unsubscribe from this                                        Newsletter
 
 
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 *** Quotes of the Week ***
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 What chance gathers she easily scatters. A great person  attracts great people and knows how to hold them together. - Johann Wolfgang  von Goethe, 1749-1832 It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young  person, "Always do what you are afraid to do." - Ralph Waldo  Emerson, 1803-1882The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and  without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be. - Horace Bushnell, 1802-1876 ------------------------------------------------------------
 *** Recommended Resource of the Week ***
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 ------------------------------------------------------------*** Article: The Valentine's Day  Gift of Time - By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz ***
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 In these tough economic times we think it is  important to again remind folks that the best things in life are free. To love,  to be loved, and to give the gift of time is the best gift you can give to  someone. This is an especially important message on Valentine's Day 2012. In our book, Building a Love that Lasts we  report the findings and practical tips from our 27-year study of successfully  marriage couples in the USA and around the world. In fact, we have interviewed  couples on SIX continents of the world.  We found in our studies that there are seven  pervasive characteristics that thread throughout all successful marriages. For  our Valentine's gift to you, we are pleased to offer suggestions related  to each of those "seven surprising secrets" for saving your  hard-earned money on Valentine's Day by giving the most precious gift of all --  your time!  Here goes, the Gift of Time just for you. 1.  The Gift of Time for Turning "Two Into One" without Losing Individual  Identity• Share ideas for what you would like to do together in 2012.
 • Talk about the dreams you share for yourself as well as for your marriage.
 • Find several favorite old photos and relive those precious moments together.
 2.  The Gift of Time so there are No "Sacred Cows" in your Marriage• Engage in an extended conversation about why you love each other.
 • Write your lover a note with three things you admire most about him or her.
 • Tell your lover something that has been a nice "secret" of yours  over the years.
 3.  The Gift of Time to Show Respect for the One You Love• Treat her like a princess -- treat him like a king.
 • Write an email telling your lover what you believe to be their greatest  strength.
 • Make a note to put on the refrigerator door with a thank you for something  special your lover did for you.
 4.  The Gift of Time for Good Health and Health Promotion• Cook a special healthy dinner and serve it by candlelight.
 • Take a long walk with your spouse for Valentine's Day.
 • Hit the "snooze" button on your alarm clock at least three times so  you can snuggle a little extra in the morning.
 5.  The Gift of Time for Marital Financial Health• Don't go to the movies, make your own romantic movie together.
 • Forget the $60 bouquet of roses -- instead paint or draw a bouquet or write a  love note to your lover.
 • Don't waste your money on jewelry or chocolates. Just tell why you love them.
 6.  The Gift of Time for Touching and Intimacy• Take a long walk together holding hands.
 • Make romantic time for intimacy.
 7.  The Gift of Time To Make Your Marriage Spontaneously Exciting• Have breakfast in bed together.
 • Read a romantic bedtime story to your lover.
 • Shut off all electronics for Valentine's Day -- no phones, no cell phones, no  computers, no PDA, no television -- just the two of you.
 You see, the best things in life are, indeed, free.  In these tough economic times, people are looking to save money at every turn.  And the truth is, love -- true love -- should never be about money. As they  song says, "Money can't buy you love."
 Our 27 years of research on successful marriage has  revealed to us that true love, true commitment, and truly successful marriages  are based on many things, but how much money you spend on the one you love is  almost never an indication of real love.
 In life, love, and marriage, the most important  gift you can give to the one you love is the gift of time. Why should Valentine's  Day 2012 be any different? We have been married for nearly 44 years. Valentine's  Day has always been special for us. We make a point each year to NOT spend  money on each other on this special day. If you follow our advice to you,  expect the most wonderful Valentine's Day ever!Simple Things Matter in love and marriage. Love well! ** To  comment on  this article or  to read comments  about this article, go here. About the Author:
 As America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts, award-winning  authors, and the SelfGrowth.com Official Guides to Marriage, Drs. Charles and  Elizabeth Schmitz help international audiences answer questions about love,  marriage and relationships. With 26 years of research on love and successful  marriage across six continents of the world and their own 43-year marriage, the  Doctors know what makes relationships work. http://www.selfgrowth.com/guide/lizandcharlesschmitz.htmlGet started with America's #1 Love and Marriage  Experts by taking their Marriage Quiz  or sending your questions to Ask the Doctors for Marriage Advice.   * Discover How To Generate 300 - 1,200 Leads Per Day LIVE  Tonight At 8pm EST! * Tonight February  13th at 8pm EST, online  traffic generation expert, Daegan Smith, will be conducting a small private  online meeting where he's going to reveal exactly how he's able to generate 300  to 1,200 leads per day online that have turned into $109,322.12 this month so  far. Register  now, and meet us tonight at 8pm. It's free.                                     ------------------------------------------------------------*** Article: 10 Things to Do in  February If You're Single - By Renee Cooper  ***
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 Valentine's Day. Here it comes again. Last year we  ran a list of things you can do if you're single in February, and got a great  response. So this year, we're updating the list with some new ideas for how to  spend this highly commercialized 'holiday'. Because even though you may not want to celebrate  the idea of 'romantic love,' your life is filled with all kinds of love, if  only you take the time to notice: unconditional love for your children, the  soul-sister (or brother) affection for your best friend, the gratitude for all  the people who make your life easier, etc. So here are some things you can do  on Valentine's Day (and all of February) to honor the loves of your life: 1. Indulge  in something decadent.If you love sugar or glitter, treat yourself to a  heart shaped box of chocolate (dark chocolate even has health benefits!) or  pamper yourself with some new jewelry. You'll most likely save money with the  sales this month! (We know this one made the list last year, but how can we not  mention chocolate and jewelry?)
 2.  Assemble all the special people in your life and have a Girl's or Guy's Night  Out!Or even better, a Girl's Night In - complete with  home makeovers, cheesy movies and lots of high caloric foods (cheesecake and  chocolate is a must!). Celebrate your strength and energy! (And for men, it's  perfect timing to plan ahead for March Madness!)
 3.  Take some time to give back.Start training for the Breast Cancer 3-Day, raise money for those who are less fortunate  or do something closer to home with a visit to a nursing home or animal  shelter. Let compassion rule your heart.
 4. Tell your best friends and family what you need.They may think you're 'over the breakup", and may not understand how  certain triggers can buy you a ticket for the emotional roller coaster. Ask  them for help.
 5.  Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up.Cry. Pout. Bemoan your lack of candlelit dinner or  couples' massage. But only for a short time. Let yourself wallow for an hour  and then let it go. Life can be painful and difficult, but it also has joy and  light. Don't let this momentary situation define who you are.
 6.  Express your gratitude.Make a list every day of the things you are  grateful for and type each list into Wordle.net. At the end of the month, you'll  have created a beautiful illustration of the most important things in your  life. Print it out and frame it as a reminder.
 7.  Maybe this is the year you join an online dating service.Take the plunge and sign up. If you don't think you're  ready, make a list of what's in your way. Then start tackling some of those  obstacles so you will be ready and dating by next Valentine's Day.
 8.  FlirtThis is as simple as smiling and looking directly  into someone's eyes. Experiment on the barista who makes your morning latte  (the guys at my local Starbucks are incredible flirts!). Brush off those skills  that may be long forgotten and practice for when you do meet someone you like  and want to attract.
 9.  Manifest your mate.Create a vision board of what you're looking for in  a lover, partner or 'someone you could spend time with' (whatever term you are  comfortable with). Then create a visual of who that person will be, and more  importantly, how you will feel with that person. Use it as a guide to attract  that person into your life.
 10.  Shake off the temptation to self-pity, and be your own valentine!No need to mope around this Valentine's Day. Use the time to love yourself,  create your own love, or show others how much you love them!Go see a movie, sing cheesy love songs to yourself  and buy yourself a gift. Lavish yourself in all your desires- you deserve it!
 ** To  comment on this article or to read comments about this article, go here. About the Author:
 Renee Cooper is the coach and co-founder of One  Journey Consulting, a coaching practice in MA dedicated to personal renewal and  rediscovery through life's transitions (primarily divorce). More information  can be found at http://www.OneJourneyConsulting.com. 
 * Discover How To Generate 300 - 1,200 Leads Per Day LIVE  Tonight At 8pm EST! * Tonight February  13th at 8pm EST, online  traffic generation expert, Daegan Smith, will be conducting a small private  online meeting where he's going to reveal exactly how he's able to generate 300  to 1,200 leads per day online that have turned into $109,322.12 this month so  far. Register  now, and meet us tonight at 8pm. It's free.    ------------------------------------------------------------*** Book Review:  Hold Me Tight: Seven  Conversations for a Lifetime of Love - By Sue Johnson  ***
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 Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally  Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment  bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has  become widely popular among therapists around the world. 
 In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy  to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save  and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and  preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in  a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky  Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through  case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises,  couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of  love.
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 A fire broke out in the chimney of the LeGrand  family's house across the street, and a group of seven boys went from just  hanging out to helping out, working to extinguish the blaze.
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 * 'We're Not Heroes': Local  Teens Humble About Helping Fight Fire *
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