[EzineArticles] Keywords Have Evolved: Now Is Your Opportunity to Shine With the Long Tail

Keywords Have Evolved: Now Is Your Opportunity To Shine With the Long Tail Quality Content Still Reigns It's over! The preoccupation with understanding and using keywords is no longer a battle for new and experienced content creators and Expert Authors. What's changed? Article writing and content creation for online users has undergone a major shift from the early days of keyword discovery and later aggressive keyword regulation. Many of us have collectively breathed a sigh of relief as the emphasis is back on quality content over keyword-riddled junk because search engines have improved their ability to connect a user's conversational long-tail queries with quality and original content. What does this mean for you? You have an opportunity to shine. Before we get into the "how to," let's take a quick step back in keyword history. A (Tongue-in-Cheek) Brief History of Keyword Usage Many content creators have wisely (and not so wisely) used keyword practices as a part of their content marketing strategy over the years. What began with good intentions to increase their ability to be searched by their target audiences soon became a hotbed of questionable black hat SEO tactics as content creators (knowingly and unknowingly) allowed themselves to be drawn in by poor "quick 'n easy" promises. Let's take a closer look: Keywords Discovered: "Hey, these keywords are neat and helped me show up on page one. I think I will use more of them." Keyword Clouds: "I'll place a widget 'cloud' of words on my page to help search engines understand what my page is all about. Look! I can even make the words spin and interact with users!" Keyword Glut: "I NEED MORE KEYWORDS! I'll just stuff them here, there, everywhere and then I will rule the search - mwhahahahaha!" Keywords Spun: "Quantity is so much better than quality! I'll write dozens of articles covering the same topic and alter the text ever so slightly. It's not exactly identical, but it targets the same keywords at least." Keywords Regulated: "STOP! This is the keyword police. Your content is under arrest. You are allowed one keyword or keyword phrase for every one hundred words. Failure to comply will result in suspension and de-indexing." Keywords Evolved. How Users, Publishers, and Search Engines Were Affected Internet users hated the early days of keyword glut and spinning. Search became a game of keyword roulette because poor quality would often outrank quality content, but what else could they do? Not use the Internet was out of the question, so they either accepted it as the way things were or they experimented with different search engines and social media. Publishers disliked it too. Targeting keywords over providing a good user experience and informative content cheapened the quality and value of the publisher's platforms. As a result, publishers attempted to fend off spam by establishing keyword checkpoints that blocked poor quality content and rewarded good quality content. Unfortunately, this made it more difficult for Expert Authors to publish. Search engines were in hot water. Internet users "putting up" with poor quality content wasn't acceptable, nor was allowing derivative, spun content driven by popular keywords to game the system. Search engines strived to provide a great user experience and found a way by improving semantic search and rewarding quality content. Their innovation has led to the evolution of keywords. Current Affairs and the Long Tail While keywords continue to have their place, the landscape has changed. Through the use of smarter synonym tools as well as the fine-tuning of co-occurrence contextual recognition tools, search engines are now more in tune with the needs of users and are better at understanding the relationships between indexed content, keywords, and user search queries. For Expert Authors like yourself, this means you have the opportunity for your existing and future quality content to do well. This is especially true if you have strong brand, link, social, and user signals as well as target long-tail user queries, which are ranking higher than ever before because they emulate the practices of natural, conversational speech used by your audience. The long tail depicts the frequency with which a topic occurs and its demand. Let's take a closer look. There are three main parts of the long-tail concept: the head, the middle, and the tail. Head: At the top of the curve, the Head targets a large audience with a high content saturation, demand, and competition (e.g., "Weight Loss"). Middle: Connecting the head and the tail, the Middle moderately targets an audience with an average content saturation, demand, and competition (e.g., "Weight Loss for Women" and "Weight Loss for Women Over 40"). Tail: The Tail targets a highly focused audience with content that's in low supply, demand, and competition (e.g., "Weight Loss for Women Over 40: Top 7 Quick, Easy, and Painless Tips to Drop a Dress Size or More!)". By targeting your audience and creating content along the long tail, you will increase the likelihood of your articles being seen by readers. Don't Dump the Overall Concept of Keywords Entirely Of course, you shouldn't throw out good keyword strategies such as integrating great keywords into your titles naturally and writing articles contextually relevant to search queries based on user demand. Find balance. Provide rich, informative content that focuses on the reader both on and off your website. Create strong social signals by engaging with your audience on social media (via discussions, sharing, etc.). And finally, implement good keyword strategies that help (not hinder) your success. Go on! Take this opportunity to shine by brainstorming long-tail article titles, allow your experience to come forth, and let the keywords take a break. Refocus on writing creative, engaging, informative content that really connects with readers. Questions? Comments? Click here to let us know - we'd love to hear from you! To Your Article Writing Success & Passion! Vanessa, Editorial Manager http://Blog.EzineArticles.com/ http://EzineArticles.com/ PS: Focus on writing quality, original content readers crave with Article Templates, which are intuitively designed to help you generate dozens of great article ideas and structured to unlock your originality. 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Popular new book for coaches & experts

Dear thomas,

The new "must read" book for workshop, 
seminar, and retreat leaders just came
out and you can get a copy for free (no
shipping charges either). 

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This is an absolute MUST-HAVE
if you're already leading live workshops,
seminars or retreats... or if you're
looking to get started.

The book is called, 
"Wealth Through Workshops: 
A Step-by-Step Guide to a Lucrative
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The author is a woman I've supported in 
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She's actually GIVING this book away for
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head on over and pick up a copy.

You'll be glad you did. 

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Regards,

David Riklan
Editor - Self Improvement Newsletter
Founder - SelfGrowth.com

 

 

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Natural Health News: Healthy Shopping and Cooking (For Those Who Hate Both!)

Natural Health Newsletter Your Guide to Health and Wellness   11/7/13 issue:   Healthy Shopping and Cooking (For Those Who Hate Both!) Email for: killdragonhero@gmail.com Natural Health and Alternative Medicine Newsletter Issue #749, November 7-8, 2013 Publisher: David Riklan - http://www.naturalhealthweb.com ------------------------------------------------------------- *** Natural Health Tip of the Week *** ------------------------------------------------------------- Cherries are a proven anti-inflammatory, as well as reducing your uric acid level. Cherries have been scientifically shown to help with things like arthritis and gout, and may have some usefulness for general muscle soreness. One study involving a group of long distance runners found that tart cherry juice significantly reduced post-exertion pain.   ------------------------------------------------------------- *** Article of the Week: Truly Healthy Shopping and Cooking - For Those Who Don't Care to Do Either! - By Diane Lauer *** ------------------------------------------------------------- For some of you, I'm sure this is true: when you read blogs and cookbooks written by culinary health gurus about how to prepare healthy, it can be a bit intimidating and overwhelming.  And perhaps it's also true that spending time in the grocery store is not your favorite pastime, either. Maybe so, but the fact is, you've got to shop and cook in order to eat well.  Although shopping and cooking are admittedly not as easy as zipping through the drive through and unwrapping a hamburger, doing these things does not have to be a chore.  It can easily become part of a pleasant routine that will add years to your life and life to your years! STEP ONE - THE GROCERY STORE A routine can make all the difference.   If you want to get in and out of the grocery store in as little time as possible - pushing a cart loaded with nutrients and short on calories - here is a basic game plan: If they have the option, get a smaller cart. Really, you won't be buying as much food as before, and since lots of it will be fresh, you'll need to do it a little more often. The smaller cart will signal when you've likely bought enough. Shop mostly around the perimeter of the store. The processed, bad-for-you foods are generally in the aisles - with a few exceptions. Learn where the beans and whole grains are (oatmeal, whole grain rice, quinoa, millet, etc.), as well as any raw nuts, seeds, nut butters or all natural jams you might want to stock up on. You might prefer the convenience of a jar of all natural salsa, bean dip, or hummus. Strategically plan your visits to the sections where you can load up on natural sweeteners like maple syrup and stevia extracts, herbal teas and spices. Other than those items, you don't need to hit the aisles. Start in produce.  If possible, try to get to the farmer's market as often as you can to stock up on local produce. But if that's not an option for you, start your shopping trip in the produce section, and focus on colors and deals.  Colors are indicative of various nutrients, and the more colors in your basket, the more variety of essential nutrients you'll put in your body. Make sure your basket is at least halfway full with produce, leaving the other half for everything else. This ensures that your diet is rich in nutrients.  (But if you can, get to the farmer's market. You'll save money, and it's a genuinely pleasant experience to spend time with the people who grow your food.) If you want bread, get it from the bakery department, NOT in the aisle. Make sure it's a genuine whole grain loaf - you can usually find several varieties baked fresh right there in the store. If you buy animal products, look for free range poultry and eggs, and lean cuts of grass-fed beef. Stay far away from processed and cured meats, such as bacon, sausage, and ham. Lots of people find that skipping dairy products altogether leads to amazing improvements in their health, and there are plenty of alternatives out there that might surprise you. Unsweetened almond milk is a great choice if you tolerate nuts; others prefer coconut milk or soy milk.  If you do opt for dairy products, try to get whole food versions, and even raw milk based products where available, with as few additives as possible. The frozen food section is one aisle you can shop, and it's your friend! Stock up on vegetables and fruits here for times when you might be short of the fresh variety. Frozen fruits and vegetables are just as healthy as the fresh kind - and in some cases, even have their nutrients better preserved. Other finds in this section would be the live sprouted grain breads, such as Ezekiel and Food for Life. STEP TWO - THE KITCHEN Again, no one way of eating works for everyone. But if you don't like to cook, it makes sense to put some of your meals on autopilot, with as little "cooking" as possible.  Here are a few suggestions: Breakfast: One large green smoothie (made with six cups of leafy greens, three bananas, and a 16 oz bag of frozen berries), one slice of Ezekiel raisin toast with a dab of clarified butter, one cup of chai tea with almond milk and sweetened with Stevia extract. Alternate: You can replace the Ezekiel bread with whole grain oatmeal, sweetened with a little maple syrup and sprinkled with cinnamon, or a bowl of Ezekiel cereal with almond milk, topped with blueberries. Lunch: One large green smoothie, all natural peanut or almond butter and jelly on Ezekiel bread. Alternate: Replace the sandwich with some carrots, celery, and falafel chips, served with hummus, or a handful of raw nuts mixed with raisins and dates. Dinner: One large green smoothie, one large salad, and one of seven meals you can rotate throughout the week, such as a vegetarian bean chili or potato leek soup (a crockpot is a best friend to someone who doesn't much like to cook!), a black bean and salsa tortilla wrap, roasted eggplant, zucchini and squash, or a mushroom, onion, and bell pepper omelet with roasted red potatoes.  Meals like these call for simple chopping, baking, or stewing, and are easy to put together in 15 minutes or fewer. Dessert: Yes, you can have dessert! Have a little dark chocolate infused with almonds and orange, a maple syrup sweetened cinnamon rice pudding, a frozen banana based mango ice cream, or avocado chocolate mousse.  It's not hard to find very simple recipes for these treats on the internet, and since there are so few ingredients, you're doing your body good! Find the simple but tasty meals that work with your routine, put as much on autopilot as you can, and you'll be amazed by what food can do for you. ** To comment on this article or read comments about this article, go here. About the Author: Diane Lauer, the SelfGrowth.com Official Guide to Wellness, creates a simple, abundant life for herself, her family, and loved ones. Diane shares her extensive experience and knowledge when working with individuals, groups, and community at large, empowering each person to choose to create an abundant and nurturing life for themselves. Diane started her journey at the age of 14, when diagnosed with Crohn's disease. She would never accept a clinical diagnosis of a chronic and (at times) debilitating disease to limit her life. Her journey has been filled with growth opportunities and major life changes. Over the 24 years, Diane has learned to work with her whole self at the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level and continues to create a truly abundant and beautiful life. Diane offers Wellness Coaching, Therapeutic Massage and Bodywork, and Yoga services. She utilizes a unique blend of training, knowledge and personal experience to develop a treatment strategy to help each individual reach their full potential of health and wellbeing To learn more, visit http://www.selfgrowth.com/solos/dianelauer.html   ------------------------------------------------------------- *** Healthy Recipe: Fennel and Herb Salad with Sweet and Sour Dressing *** ------------------------------------------------------------- This tangy salad works great as a light lunch or as a delicious dinner side dish. To read the full recipe, go here.

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[EzineArticles] Overwhelmed? Break BIG Goals Into Manageable Chunks

Overwhelmed? Break BIG Goals Into Manageable Chunks Become a Goal Achiever "Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal." - Henry Ford Are you feeling overwhelmed? Does it seem like there are constant obstacles in your path? Do you imagine some maniacal being is sabotaging you by thwarting your progress? An Expert Author recently expressed this same frustration, stating it's easy to make goals, visualize yourself meeting them, but actually doing it during the daily grind is another story. I'm going to share with you what I shared with her: Whether your goal is to write a 50,000 word novel for NaNoWriMo or publish 30 articles by the end of the month, you can set actionable steps to feasibly achieve your goals by chunking. What Is Chunking? Chunking is the process of dividing something into smaller chunks. You can chunk down to create actionable steps and chunk up to prioritize your efforts. Think of it like you're looking at a forest: Chunk Down: See the forest (goal) for the trees (details). Consider the elements and details that make the goal whole. Chunk Up: See the forest (goal) as a whole. Avoid getting so wrapped up in the details that you lose sight of the big picture. How Do You Do It? Chunking down is best done with a map as a guide. Here's how to make your map: Once you've established your goal, write it down. Chunk down by writing all of the steps and elements you need to take to get there. Draw arrows indicating the order of events between the steps. For example, let's say I want to publish 30 articles by the end of the month. Here's what my map (in part) may look like: Once you have a map detailing the chain of events needed to achieve your goal, move forward by planning a timetable. When Do You Do It? Once you've established a road map, chunk your time by creating a timetable. Of course, be realistic with the timetable, but be okay with a challenge. Push the limit! For example, I know I take approximately 1 hour and 30 minutes to draft an article of 700-1,000 words. This estimate may be less with zero distractions, but I'm never 100% distraction free so I'm giving myself a little wiggle room. I usually will take an additional 30 minutes to revise, edit, proofread, and perform final edits. To submit and publish, I will allot at least 5 minutes to ensure all of the information in the Write & Edit submission form of my account is correct. I'll also take 10 minutes to prepare a few social media posts to be ready to promote the article once it's live. From start to finish, I clock 2 hours and 15 minutes for one article. To write 30 articles (to meet my goal), I will need to allot 67 hours and 30 minutes for the duration of one month. Since I have various non-writing duties and priorities (as well as a few holidays this month), I need to chunk out my writing schedule to accommodate my writing goal accordingly. First, I've estimated the duration of my daily writing sessions to determine how much time each day I will be dedicating to writing: 1 article = 2 hours and 15 minutes 2 articles = 4 hours and 30 minutes 3 articles = 6 hours and 45 minutes Next, I'll create a timetable to stay on the ball. I'll also share this with my team, family, and friends to secure their support. Based on this timetable, I'll have written 30 articles by day 25 with planned catch-up days (in case my writing sessions are interrupted and I go over the time I allot myself) as well as breaks to refresh and celebrate holidays with my family. The next step: Do it! It's never too late to get on track with your goals. When you break goals into doable chunks, it's much easier and more motivating to achieve them. Set a goal, apply the chunking method, embrace it by taking action, and don't take your eyes off the goal! What method do you use to achieve your goals? Click here to let us know - we'd love to hear from you! 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Colonoscopy Crisis: Why are these doctors canceling them?

Dear thomas, This video is not for the faint of heart. These recently discovered details are gruesome...but they change everything we know about colonoscopies. And many doctors will not reveal this information to their patients. Why? Because they can't stand to part with the $7,000 (or more) price tags. Just watch one minute of this presentation and you'll understand--canceling your next colonoscopy could be the best decision you've ever made for your health. When you're ready--visit here. Sincerely, David Riklan Editor - Self Improvement Newsletter Founder - SelfGrowth.com P.S. If you're 50, and especially if you're over 65--you must watch this presentation. This new information regarding colonoscopies could save your life.         ------------------------- You are receiving this email because you signed up for our Self Improvement Newsletter or registered with http://www.SelfGrowth.com. To unsubscribe or update your information, go here: Manage_Preferences Or contact us at: Self Improvement Online, Inc. 1130 Campus Drive West Morganville, NJ 07751 Phone: 732-617-1030 Email: editors@selfgrowth.com

[New Report] Live Events are DEAD!

Dear thomas,

This is shocking!

Callan Rush just published a free
report called 'Live Events are DEAD!'

You can get a copy here...

http://www.selfgrowth.com/solos/wealththroughworkshopsnhn.html

If you're currently leading live 
Workshops, Retreats or Seminars, I'd 
look into this right away...

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This is shocking because Callan leads 
MORE THAN 50 Live Seminars and Workshops 
every year...

...and she's built a $7-figure business
doing so... 

... so if anyone's qualified to report on
a new trend, it's certainly her.

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You'll also have access to her new training 
video where she shares all about what's 
working and what's NOT working with live
events right now... and how to fix it...

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Regards,

David Riklan
Editor - Natural Health Newsletter
Founder - NaturalHealthWeb.com and SelfGrowth.com

P.S. Callan Rush is the world's foremost authority
on Filling, Designing and Profiting from Workshops,
Retreats and Seminars... so when the rules change, 
I always pay attention to what she's saying.

Go get this report now:

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SelfGrowth.com: Working Smart & How Not to Fight

Self Improvement Newsletter Improve Your Life Today!   11/4/13 issue:   Working Smart & How Not to Fight Email for: killdragonhero@gmail.com * Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly Newsletter * Issue #791, Week of November 4-5, 2013 Publisher: David Riklan - http://www.SelfGrowth.com In this issue: -- Quotes of the Week -- Recommended Resource of the Week -- Article: You're Not Working Hard Enough! - By David Leigh Weber -- Article: How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them) - By Tina Tessina -- Book Review: The Rich Revolution - By Bruce Bishop - By Kate Northrup -- Inspirational News Story of the Week -- How to Subscribe and Unsubscribe from this Newsletter ------------------------------------------------------------ *** Quotes of the Week *** ------------------------------------------------------------ It is of little traits that the greatest human character is composed. - William Winter, 1836-1917 In this world a man must either be an anvil or hammer. - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, 1807-1882 In all things that you do, consider the end. - Solon, 638 BC-538BC ------------------------------------------------------------ *** Recommended Resource of the Week *** ------------------------------------------------------------ * Make Him Love You Forever Using "The Secret Loophole" In His Heart. * If you ever felt like you could never get the attention, affection & commitment of the man you love, check out this video by relationship expert Michelle Miller about the Secret Loophole in a Man's Heart... This weird "Secret Loophole" will enable you to get past his defenses, open his heart & share his deepest desires with you. He'll willingly commit to you forever, even if he's blowing hot and cold towards you. WATCH VIDEO: Secret Loophole In A Man's Heart ------------------------------------------------------------ *** Article: You're Not Working Hard Enough! - By David Leigh Weber *** ------------------------------------------------------------ Insulting title, huh? The reason I used it is it reflects the common American myth that if you aren't rich (or making 'enough' money) you aren't working hard enough. I saw this in college when I worked in a factory. The way to make money was to work overtime, sometimes LOTS of overtime, so you could have the things you wanted. If you were white collar the solution was to work a second (or third) job to get what you wanted. Then, of course, there is the usual working late at the office to please the boss in hopes of someday getting that promotion. In these ways you were working hard and providing for your family and your future. But what is really going on here? Let's start with the core of the issue -- if someone has money they are 'working hard'. Conversely, if they don't have money or are struggling they aren't working hard enough. Um, okay... The reality is money has little or nothing to do with working hard in the traditional sense. You can work hard at a fast food restaurant for a year and never make as much as a stockbroker who presses a few buttons and makes a killing on a hot stock. Likewise, a celebrity like Justin Beiber or Lady Gaga can put their name on any product and it will make more money than you could ever make at McDonald's. Even worse, statistics show that millions of Americans are working hard yet getting nowhere relatively speaking. Real wages are basically the same they've been since the early 1970's. And a recent report shows the income gap between the majority of workers (often referred to as the 99%) and the rich (the 1%) is the largest in over 100 years. So, by the accepted definition of the term, the rich are the only ones who are really working hard. Are you insulted even more? Don't be. There are reasons I am bringing this all up: 1) It may sound weird but you have to give up the notion of 'working hard'. If you live your life thinking you're not working hard enough or that everyone around you (especially those portrayed in the media) are working harder you'll drive yourself crazy. It's a vicious cycle that never ends, unless of course you work yourself to death. (I've known many people who have) 2) Substitute 'working hard' with 'working smart'. Working smart means everything you do is as efficient and seamless as possible. I can't tell you the number of meetings and teleconferences I've been on over the years where the entire reason for the meeting could have been resolved in five minutes. 3) Learn to work in flow, from your core. Flow is about doing everything naturally, like breathing. Work should be both enjoyable and rewarding, financially or otherwise. In high school I used to work as a dishwasher in a nursing home. I actually loved it, and felt I had both worked hard and gotten something out of it. I have used that same feeling (doing a job in flow) to determine whether a job or project was truly right for me. 4) Don't stress! If you are working in flow you are calm and content, and any challenge is surmountable. Plus, your concerns about 'doing it right' as far as working hard suddenly disappear. Only when you lose sight of who you are and how YOU work will you succumb to all the anxiety and stress people traditionally experience. Bottom line? Discover how you work, ignore the media and the 'keeping up with the Jones' mentality, and ensure your work life revolves around you instead of the reverse. ** To comment on this article or to read comments about this article, go here. About the Author: In 2003 David Leigh Weber, the SelfGrowth.com Official Guide to Work Life Balance, decided to found what would ultimately become Learn About Flow, an organization dedicated to empowering people to find their true selves, what makes them their most successful on every level. Since that time Learn About Flow has helped hundreds find the contentment and life purpose they had always dreamed of. Today David is an author (My Life Has No Purpose!), sought after speaker, and evangelist for true mind-body-spirit wellness. He has a B.A. in English & History from the University of Rochester and an M.A. in Communications from the Newhouse School (Syracuse University). Originally from New England, David now lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. For more information visit: http://www.selfgrowth.com/solos/davidleighweber.html * Make Him Love You Forever Using "The Secret Loophole" In His Heart. * If you ever felt like you could never get the attention, affection & commitment of the man you love, check out this video by relationship expert Michelle Miller about the Secret Loophole in a Man's Heart... This weird "Secret Loophole" will enable you to get past his defenses, open his heart & share his deepest desires with you. He'll willingly commit to you forever, even if he's blowing hot and cold towards you. WATCH VIDEO: Secret Loophole In A Man's Heart   ------------------------------------------------------------ *** Article: How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them) - By Tina Tessina *** ------------------------------------------------------------ In my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it's not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social expectations (expectations the people around you have about marriage) and myths (common beliefs not based on fact.) Myths and Expectations about Fighting There are many myths and expectations about fighting in marriage. Couples come into my office frequently believing that fighting is a necessary part of being a couple; that all married couples fight; and it's a normal part of marriage. But the fact is that fighting accomplishes nothing, and it isn't necessary for couples to argue, to yell, or to have heated discussions to get problems solved. Hanging on to these ideas makes it difficult to let go of fighting. Some of the most prevalent myths about fighting are: Myth #1: Fighting clears the air, and brings out the truth. Fighting is not necessary to "clear the air." Getting heated up does not make you tell truths you wouldn't tell otherwise. What happens when couples fight and get emotional is that both parties say things they don't mean, or say them in much nastier ways than is really true. It is possible to discuss anything that is or is not happening between you in a calm and logical manner that will lead to more truth telling and air clearing than fighting and arguing will ever accomplish. Myth #2: Within your family, it's OK to "let it all hang out" -- to be as emotional as you want, and say things you'd never say to a friend or a boss. Whether you're fighting or not, (or drunk, or upset) you're still responsible for everything you say and do. The hurtful or mean or outrageous things you say will be remembered by your spouse or the other family members who hear them. Myth #3: Fighting just happens, you can't control it. You always have a choice about your behavior and how you express yourself. If you've developed a fighting habit, or never learned to control your temper, you may need to do some work, but you can learn to behave differently. Myth #4: My wife (or husband) makes me do it. He (she) yells first. No one else is responsible for your behavior. You are not responsible for anyone else's words or actions. You can always choose not to yell back, to speak calmly, or to leave the room. Your partner cannot fight alone. Myth #5: Any time we get angry, it's natural to argue and yell. Arguing, and shouting is not the only way to express your anger. It's just the most dramatic way. As a matter of fact, it's the least effective way to reach a solution for whatever is making you angry. Myth #6: It's a family trait -- everyone in my family argues. Fighting, temper tantrums and arguing may be common in your original family, but it's not genetic, inherited, or inevitable. It's still learned behavior, and it's a dysfunctional family trait. It's a habit, and you can overcome it for the benefit of your spouse and children. Myth #7: It's OK to yell, shout, curse , throw things and hit walls as long as I don't hit a person. These raging behaviors are classified as emotional abuse, which is just as damaging to families as physical abuse. Evidence of emotional abuse is enough to have your children detained by Child Protective Services in many states, and can even cause a raging spouse to be hauled off in handcuffs, if a problem is reported and the police arrive to witness the behavior. I tell clients who are behaving this way to separate until they get their anger under control, which requires anger management classes or therapy. If this is happening in your house, it must be stopped now -- get counseling right away. Fighting = Bad Communication No matter what you're fighting about: money, sex, kids or something else, the fighting is an indication that your communication isn't working. If this happens only occasionally, such as when one or both of you are tired or stressed; it's not too big a problem. However, if you argue or bicker on a daily or weekly basis, or you keep fighting about the same thing over and over, then your communication is not functioning as it should, and you don't know how to move from a problem to the solution. When this happens, problems are recurrent, endless, and they can be exaggerated into relationship disasters. Use these guidelines to make your discussions more productive: Guidelines for Not Fighting 1. Don't participate: Disagreements always require two people. If you don't participate, your partner can't argue without you. If the issue arises at an inopportune time, you can just find a temporary resolution (temporarily give in, go home, leave the restaurant) and wait until things calm down to discuss what happened (the squabble may just have been a case of too much alcohol, or being tired and irritable.) Then talk about what you can do instead if it ever happens again. 2. Discuss Recurring Problems: To resolve recurring problems, discuss related decisions with your spouse and find out what each of you does and does not want before making important decisions. You have a lot of options; so don't let confusion add to the stress. 3. Seek to Understand: Make sure you and your partner understand each other's point of view before beginning to solve the problem. You should be able to put your mate's position in your own words, and vice versa. This does not mean that you agree with each other, just that you understand each other. 4. Solve it for the Two of You: Come up with a solution that works for just the two of you, ignoring anyone else's needs. It's much easier to solve a problem for the two of you than for others, such as children, co-workers, friends and family. After you are clear with each other, discuss the issues with others who may be involved. 5. Talk to Others: After you've solved it for the two of you, if extended family members or friends might have problems with your decision, talk about what objections they might have, so you can diffuse them beforehand. Discuss possible ways to handle their objections. Squabbles often occur because you're following automatic habit patterns that lead to a problem before you know it. Using these guidelines will help you overcome negative habit patterns you may have built that lead to arguments or bickering. 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